Do You Cry in the Shower?
Posted by Laurie
Maybe you cry in the shower because it’s the only place you can be alone. The water will wash away your tears and the sound will muffle your cry and no one will know your quiet desperation.
Sometimes it just feels good to cry, to get it out, and to let the angst go down the drain. But new research, according to this article, tells us that we should let our mate see our tears. Evolutionary scientists point out that tears show vulnerability and bring us closer to our families, loved ones, and friends.
I suppose the lesson from this research is that we shouldn’t feel shameful of our tears. We should use them to convey how deeply we feel about something, especially when our tears represent our fear, anxiety, frustration or hurt, rather than our joy.
Sometimes tears can say a thousand words. I remember how I felt in the first few 
weeks of being a new mom. I was so anxious, fearful and sad. I had the baby blues and I would spend all day trying to hold in my tears. Finally, toward the end of the day when I was exhausted, I couldn’t hold them in anymore and I’d cry to my husband. And it’s true, it would bring us closer literally (he would hug me) and emotionally (he would tell me that it will be okay). I felt terrible burdening him with my outbursts of sadness, but it was the right thing to do, and now I have research to back me up.
If you find yourself crying during pregnancy, or as a new parent, don’t put an additional strain on your relationship by hiding your inner-most thoughts from your mate. Share your fears and your tears and you too might discover, as I did, that your partner actually soothes your pain and makes you feel better.
Do you cry in front of your loved ones? What is their reaction? Have you ever cried in secret?
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This article helped my alot. I have recently moved from Alaska to Louisianna (leaving all my friends and family behind), and about a month after arriving at my new home, i found out i was pregnant. Its been tough for me to go through this pregnancy with out my support system. I would hold back my tears all day long, i felt like i was being weak by wanting to cry so much. I finally broke down in front of my boyfriend and i am glad i did. He is all my support right now, and i feel much less alone.