Comments on: Pregnancy Insanity?

By: Laurie

Laurie — Fri, 20 Aug 2010 23:11:19 +0000

Hi C.S.,

Thanks for your question, but I must say, it doesn’t matter whether or not her behavior is normal. What matters is whether her behavior is safe. It is not.

At a time when she is not mad or upset, you should discuss “safety issues” and your concern for her life (and yours and the baby’s too, but talk about her life first). Don’t defend the childish remark. Apologize and take the blame, but move on to talking about how safety is more important now than ever. I would hope that if you present your point calmly and compassionately, that she might agree she was a little off-base and try to be safer in the future.

Best,
Laurie

By: C.S.

C.S. — Fri, 20 Aug 2010 21:11:56 +0000

My wife is 34 weeks. Last Saturday she got mad because I said something childish the day before and she didn’t want me to go to the breast feeding class. I insisted and when she finally let me get in the car, she hit the accelerator and speeded 80 miles per hour inside the parking lot of the apartment complex and said “What if I kill us all!!!!”. I was freaking scared! when she hit the brakes right in front of the gate, I jumped out and said “You’re getting our of control” and walked back to our apartment. Could this be normal in a pregnant woman?
I will appreciate any advice.
C.S.

By: Ashley Guzman

Ashley Guzman — Thu, 10 Jun 2010 03:44:49 +0000

It’s like within the month of me finding out that I was pregnant I became totally insane. Not just your normal everyday insane. I became an evil, hormone enraged devil who lived in the husk of my previous jovial self. My poor husband has endured over 3 months of my rage and it has shown. With 5 more months to go we have decided to seek profesional help with comunication in order to save our marriage and strengthen our bond before the baby comes. Needless to say, he does not want to have any more children after this one. Frankly neither do I.

By: Anon

Anon — Mon, 31 May 2010 23:25:45 +0000

My 13 week pregnant girlfriend is doing my head in. Two days we had our biggest argument yet or rather I witnessed this volcanic eruption of irrational negativity because I had been annoyed with her for badgering my own mother – THe catalyst was totally trivial. Yesterday the next one was that fact I started cooking onion in the kitchen and she cannot stand that – and started screaming at me for that. She became this tantrum screaming child claiming I had ruined everything in her life. IT was incredible. I ended up hating her. But she apologised on the phone a few days later and was totally contrite and wants to go to counselling as she was shouted alot at by her abusive father. I appreciated that. I can see why a lot of men leave their girlfriends / wives at this time. I hate being shouted at. Just another 6 months to go….. How much more can I take…. Well Ive just written the answer I suppose – 6 months. It is so draining. And I feel utterly frightened of her. I like joking around . None of that thank you very much. Any tips on how to survive the next 6 months? I am in my late 40s and led a tranquil sometimes jolly existence before this. Yours anon,

By: jenny austin

jenny austin — Tue, 18 May 2010 10:23:28 +0000

My family has been broken apart bec of my moods while I was pregnant. I abused my husband, my brother and his wife, my mum. If I didnt like what they say, I just lashed out. I got frustrated if someone say the wrong thing, or things that I think was wrong. My baby is now 8 mnths and my brother and wife still doesnt talk to me. My brother thinks that I was just making it up and there’s no such thing as insanity in pregnancy. Now I am embarrassed to apologise in case they tell me off. But by golly, it’s true, you can go temporarily insane during that time.

By: Ali

Ali — Tue, 14 Jul 2009 10:48:42 +0000

I cried (for hours, as if someone had died) because I didn’t get a hamburger. My husband was heading to work and I KNEW that he would stop for dinner and get himself one. He’s an EMT and works 12 hour shifts, so eating is necessary. I told him that he wasn’t allowed to eat hamburgers anymore. He went to work and later brought me a hamburger in the ambulance. I cried again because I knew that I had been ridiculous AND I couldn’t help it. But let me tell you, that was the best damn hamburger I’ve ever had in my life.

By: Laurie

Laurie — Mon, 08 Jun 2009 20:45:43 +0000

Dear Miranda,

Thank you for writing to us at ExpectingWords.com. It’s important to share your feelings and recognize the changes you are going through. It sounds like your situation is very difficult and that your entire family is suffering. For this reason, I ask that you think about the way that your feelings could be hurting your son and husband. No one deserves to be hit and it seems clear that you already know this. This is part of what is making you even sadder.

I am not a medical expert, so I can’t offer you therapy or medical help, but I can offer you my heartfelt suggestion that you seek professional help now to work through your feelings. I don’t think it’s in your best interest to wait and hope that your anger will simply go away when the baby arrives. You have time right now to work on this. By getting help today, you will be stronger and wiser when your new baby arrives.

You don’t deserve to feel this sad. Please seek help now so you can be your best self.

Thinking of you,
Laurie

By: Miranda Rodriguez-Sandy

Miranda Rodriguez-Sandy — Sun, 07 Jun 2009 23:15:58 +0000

Hello,
Thnak you for this information. I’m 26 yrs old and 7 months pregnant with my second child. I am paranoid and I cry a lot for any reason. Most of all, I can’t seem to control my anger. I shout, swear at and even hit my husband and son if they get me angry and I feel very badly after and I usually cry about it. My husband is very patient with me most of the time but sometimes I know he gets fed up with my behaviour-and I cry about that too. I had an unpleasant childhood and adolescent life and I get angry over that too. Presently, I don’t even speak to my parents because I can’t seem to stand them.
All this is so depressing to me especially because I never felt this way in my first pregnancy. I never even had a day of morning sickness nor did I gain so much weight.
Here’s hoping this all goes away when the baby is born…
Thanks again for makng me aware that I’m not alone in this…