Things that Make Your Marriage Go Hmmm….
Posted by Laurie
When I started a Facebook fan page for my upcoming book, Fight Less, Love More (Rodale, Oct. 2010), I wasn’t sure whether I’d use it to announce book events or share advice. Turns out a third and better purpose evolved on its own. The fans themselves turned it into a forum to share their experiences with relationships. I’ve been stunned by their honesty, and some of the recent fan discussions about the ups and downs of marriage struck me as a topic that expecting couples and new parents could relate to.
I posted this status update as a question:
“Couples often have phases in their relationships, good years, and then not-so perfect years and back to more good years. If your relationship is going through a rough spell, don’t give up! Has anyone experienced the phases and survived?”
In response, Heather commented, “4 years ago we did…we actually separated for 3 months. We were in our worst financial state. very stressful. We just realized we loved each other regardless and we pulled through! We learned to better communicate our feelings from that experience! It has been uphill and going strong since!”
Dawn wrote, “There has been many stages that have unfolded in our marriage. From the loss of my son, to battles that were against our will, but apparently those battles were Gods will. Through all of them, we overcame challenges that may of been seen as a loss in ones eyes, but was only a win in our eyes…”
Marian responded with, “Yes and I was glad to see that things did get better. Have to admit, I had to do some things differently, for a different result.”
Carla wrote, “We did a couple of years ago and were separated for a little over 6 months. Thank God we worked thru it and are going thru the good times now! Thinking our love can get us thru anything now that we survived that trial period 
”
Two days ago I wrote this update:
Game Show time! Name “Things that Make a Couple More Likely to Fight” 1) Broken air conditioning (I’m suffering from that right now!), 2) Lack of sleep, 3) A new baby, 4) ….. what’s your answer?
In response, Laura wrote, “Money…always money(or lack of it)..LOL”
Diane commented, “Each one’s best efforts at parenting-and the kids’ best effort to play one parent against another…”
Jill revealed, “Feeling like ur husband nvr grows up nd u r a single mom with 3 kids ugghhhh”
Amanda wrote, “I’m in school, couldn’t find a job, we had to move in w/ his parents, Anyone wanna talk about HELL? I’m in hell, my hubs doesn’t even like his mom…!?!”
Carol added, “living in his parents house and having no privacy even when you eat having someone watching you . and when you are home having to sit in your room till your husband gets home.”
Helen responded with, “Lack of sleep 4 both of us.”
What are your answers to these questions? Did you know that so many people face ups and downs in marriage? Is this what you expected on your wedding day or has the reality of “better or worse” taken you by surprise?
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